Many people are scared of relationships today and are dreaded of marriage. Fewer people are getting married, and fewer people are getting in relationships.
According to divorcesource.com “we have about 2.4 million marriages a year and 1.2 million divorces a year.” Which means 50 percent of marriages fail every year. Now the questions are; do marriages fail because people are easily wanting out when things get a little tough? Are people avoiding relationships because of what a possible relationship might change? Are people being naïve to think that they couldn’t be happier than they are right now? In honestly I would like to know when caring for another person have become such a negative thing.?
First, Let’s go back to when you first meet a person. What are the most important traits of a good date? Sit back and think about what do you look for when you go on a date? One of the most common answers you might get is “Chemistry”. What is chemistry? That feeling or “Spark” that many call it, or the moment when it clicks. The reality is the Chemistry “spark” myth is BULLSHYT. Chemistry is not a “spark”, or that “feeling”. Chemistry is a mix of sexual tension, emotional, and intellectual engagement. One of the main components of chemistry is sexual tension. You can find someone attractive or be attractive to them but if you don’t feel that “spark” just know later down the road when you are actually dating someone for a couple of years or even further more married to them; if that “Spark” isn’t there eventually your relationship will fail. That sexual tensions you have to learn how to play the game of “go away a little closer” I’ll explain this game in my next blog.
Now, you have come to realize that the chemistry is there with a person, and you are genuinely interested in them, why would you not give it a chance to pursue that happiness to its fullest potential? I am a strong believer in going after what you want. Many people like the idea of marriage and family; however, they don’t even like to put in the work that is needed. I get it we all have these goals we want to accomplish, and we have to first be okay and stable with ourselves before we can even think about committing to another person. However, I believe that men have such an illogical belief as to what a relationship actually entails.
The reality is being in a relationship with someone whom you know has that sexual tension, emotional connection, and intellectual engagement with you has more perks than disadvantages. The men who are just in for it for the hook up wouldn’t certainly know, but men in relationships not only have more sex than those who are single, but they actually have better sex. The reason for this is because feelings do not only create someone who cares about you, but also wanting to pleasure you. I guaranteed you that if you satisfy your woman in all her emotional needs, you might be surprised at what a woman will do in the bedroom when someone is committed to her. I know women who have never done XYZ in the bedroom but will give it a try for someone who is committed to them.
Being in a relationship also has continual support. If you are having a bad day or if you are working towards your goal, being in a relationship means there is someone in your life who is there to celebrate all of your accomplishments with you, and also push you a little harder when you are not doing so great. The truth is having a supporting spouse can help you achieve your goals faster than you can even imagine. Most millionaires who are actual millionaires all are married and have supporting spouses.
“More than 90% of American millionaires are part of married couples, and on average those couples been married almost thirty years. Another 5% of American millionaires are widows or widowers. Millionaire couples have a unique ability to select mates with a certain set of qualities. These qualities not only help explain long-term, happy marriages but also include qualities which are beneficial to wealth creation Both spouses identify and credit each other as having certain important traits: of these, the most important they both agree on and identify in each other are: unselfish, caring, forgiving, patient, understanding, disciplined and virtuous. Nearly all spouses see five key qualities in their spouses, and agree on the importance of these qualities in contributing to a successful and lasting marriage (all ranked in the top five, from 91% to 98% of all millionaire spouses): honest, responsible, loving, capable and supportive.”
Is not often that you find someone that you connect with. Don’t chase someone just to let him or her go. I’m not going to stay in denial because of my “Age” or opinions of my friends and family. I am going to do what makes ME HAPPY.
At the end, great relationships will enhance your life. If it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t work out- but don’t close yourself out due to a past bad relationship. You will never get to experience the true thrill and joy of love.